For someone who was never very good at ‘feeling the vibes’ before, I would say that the past few weeks have been rather energetically charged for me! Exquisitely so, and sometimes painfully. I have gone from the highest highs to the lowest lows, and felt a bit like someone was playing ping pong with my head inside of a giant washing machine at times! Perhaps you can relate. So I thought I would share some concepts and strategies that help me keep my spark alive. What do you do when your world gets tough? Do you have rock-solid coping mechanisms? I have seen people on Facebook advertise the ‘Fukitol’ pill, but I think we can do a lot better than that. There is a whole bunch of stuff you can do energetically and spiritually, and since I specialise in NLP and mindset, I will talk about that instead (and burn incense in the background, too!) My three tips all have to do with the notion that nothing ever happens in a vacuum, and for no reason. It all depends on you, and what you consciously choose to experience.
So, number one: Find the pearl in the oyster.
In his book Awaken the Giant Within, Tony Robbins reminds us that, “It is not the events in our lives that shape us, but our belief about what these events mean”. On NLP trainings, we teach Time Line Therapy™ techniques that help people extract positive, powerful learnings from seemingly negative and painful experiences. In a way, we help them to change their past. So that if and when they are confronted with a similar situation in the future, instead of being overwhelmed by a negative emotion, they can draw from their new learnings, and assign a different meaning to the experience. No event or situation has any pre-defined, in-built meaning, you’re the one who decides what it’s there for. Can you identify the teaching in it? Can you find the gold? Do you want to experience darkness, or light? More and more people in the world are moving toward the light, collectively. Join us!
Number two: Check on your beliefs.
In order for you to feel bad about something, you must have a belief that is out of alignment with your true core self. Ask yourself the question, “What would I have to believe is true about myself or this situation in order to feel bad right now?” Identify the belief. If it does not serve you positively in any way, let go of it. I recently helped a client release two hugely limiting beliefs they had: the belief that they could ever be a victim of their circumstances; and a belief in lack. Lack does not exist, it is an illusion. So is the idea than you can ever be less than powerful in your own experience: because you create it. So, scrutinise your beliefs. NLP techniques can also help you achieve better, clearer connection and understanding with your unconscious mind. All learning, behaviour, and change happens at the unconscious level. 95% percent of our behaviours are based on unconscious beliefs we have acquired along the way. Perhaps you have beliefs that served you well in the past. Perhaps it is time for a clean-up, too. Download the 2.0 version of yourself, and bin the old programme.
Number three: The universe has your back!
It is not out to get you, and neither is God, despite what some religions may preach. Don’t make me laugh, that is total rubbish. Jonathan Black, author of The Secret History of the World, points out in his book that once upon a time, people understood a very important concept. They believed that, “The universe is made with humankind in mind. Nothing happens anywhere in the cosmos except in interaction with the human mind.” This means that the odds are in our favour. You see, the likes of Jack Canfield and Tony Robbins don’t often explain the reason why they say things like, “Be realistic, expect miracles!”, and “Don’t worry about the How, focus on the Wow!”, which I positively adore. Or what Bob Proctor laughingly calls the Goethe’s Law, a dig at the awfully negative Murphy’s Law. But they all know that what the great German writer Johann Wolfgang von Goethe said is true: “The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events ensues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no one could have dreamed would come their way.”
What this all means is that at any moment, there is a lot more going on than we can perceive. At any moment, we are always a lot more than we think we are. And when you move, the Universe will move with you. So, shake off that fear, throw away that bad feeling, and embrace the light.
“The purpose of our life is to be happy.” – Dalai Lama